http://adoptionandfire.com/2009/03/attachment-doesnt-mean.html Mon, 21 May 2012 08:09:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://adoptionandfire.com/2009/03/attachment-doesnt-mean.html/comment-page-1#comment-3704 stew Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:16:57 +0000 http://adoptionandfire.com/?p=1377#comment-3704 I play this list (or something very much like it) over and over again in my head daily. Always observing and analyzing LGs behavior, our behavior, and potential meanings. And as the kids get older, there are more layers to 'see' through because then there are age-related development phases that they are going through. trust your gut (the REAL gut feelings, not the ones you're 'supposed to be feeling.') I play this list (or something very much like it) over and over again in my head daily. Always observing and analyzing LGs behavior, our behavior, and potential meanings. And as the kids get older, there are more layers to ‘see’ through because then there are age-related development phases that they are going through. trust your gut (the REAL gut feelings, not the ones you’re ‘supposed to be feeling.’)

]]> http://adoptionandfire.com/2009/03/attachment-doesnt-mean.html/comment-page-1#comment-3698 Tonggu Momma Tue, 24 Mar 2009 12:29:16 +0000 http://adoptionandfire.com/?p=1377#comment-3698 Amen, Wendy! The Tongginator went through a charming phase for about 10 months after we arrived home. Then the raging began. And the insecure attachment. It took another nine months to get through the worst of that. She's now five (been home over four years) and is, for the most part, securely attached. But she still struggles to play independently and is, of course, downright charming to others while difficult with family some weeks. We still do attachment-related activities with her. She's just a child who needs lots and lots of time! Amen, Wendy! The Tongginator went through a charming phase for about 10 months after we arrived home. Then the raging began. And the insecure attachment. It took another nine months to get through the worst of that. She’s now five (been home over four years) and is, for the most part, securely attached. But she still struggles to play independently and is, of course, downright charming to others while difficult with family some weeks. We still do attachment-related activities with her. She’s just a child who needs lots and lots of time!

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